Disfigurement and dating
June 7 is National Cancer Survivors Day, which reminds me of my own bout with breast cancer back in 2001; and is also a reminder of the many people who have a difficult time with the transition to intimacy following disfigurement.When we think of transformation, we usually think of emotional or psychological change, but just as often, it can refer to physical transformation—which can be elective, such as plastic surgery—that we choose as a result of an accident, or an illness such as cancer.D., in his book preoccupation with cancer and its treatment usually decreases interest in sexual intimacy, but there are things couples can do to rekindle interest, such as hugging, cuddling, kissing, dimming the lights, showering together, watching an erotic movie, and trying comfortable positions.This year marks the 16th anniversary of my mastectomy and reconstruction as a result of DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma in Situ), the most common form of noninvasive breast cancer.
Women need a great deal of reassurance about their appearance, and according to Vladimir Lange, M.
It’s not nice.’ One thing that’s helped Rebecca cope was taking part in a Beauty Inside and Out workshop, which are put on free by Changing Faces for 13 to 16 year old girls.
‘We want to encourage teenage girls with disfigurements to feel confident about being visible, and to enjoy exploring make-up like other teenagers’, says Michelle Bativala, Young People’s Specialist at Changing Faces.
For those affected, it can turn a simple shopping or social trip into an ordeal.
Curious stares, strange looks, hurtful remarks and even put-downs can all be part of everyday life.
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Because we all make judgements about people on the basis of how they look, social situations can be difficult for people with facial disfigurements.